Resolution 2014
My mother and I had an argument earlier this year and she told me to stop playing the victim. She said that nobody believes that I am a victim. At the time, this statement really hurt me and even made me scratch my head a bit. What does that even mean, playing the victim? I was thinking about it and wondered if someone had really done something mean or bad to you, weren't you by nature then a victim of their behavior? As usual, I tried to defend myself from her mean spirited comment but inside, I took what she said to heart. Now, months later, it has dawned on me that I do indeed identify myself as a victim of others' bad behavior and attempts to control me. I was an abused child and so most of my life has been spent being miserable and having no power to change things. When I was little this was by default. A child doesn't really have any real power to make the abuse stop. But as an adult, I am just now realizing that it is onl...
